Friday, September 20, 2019

In Response to Ignorance

Earlier this week The Mighty posted a piece I had written about inclusion. It stemmed from a comment made to me by a community member. I wrote about inclusion and its beauty. I'll be honest, long ago, I was an uneducated human willing to ask my child not be in the inclusion class but that was before my oldest was. It was beautiful. In fact this past year we ran into a child she tried to help and both the mother and I spent an hour catching up in a parking lot reminiscing about the beauty of the group. Academically it didn't pull her down but emotionally and socially it made her a better person. I wanted to educate, to tell others that they too could have this experience and while I cannot speak for all districts, I can speak to ours, they are doing their best to make sure children's needs are met. Always.

Tuesday, a friend shared that it had been picked up by Yahoo and I was super excited to see that it got carried over to yet another place where the voice could be shared advocating for inclusion and children learning tolerance, acceptance and understanding and perhaps educating mom and dad about what true inclusive education is today. That afternoon basking in the beauty of daylight, I read that a friend said I shouldn't read the comments. Honestly, I have been too busy...between working, coaching and my five kiddos schedules, I haven't had time but this morning, I quickly looked. I saw one comment that made me want to post my own and so I did but this evening I got to wondering, how many others really didn't understand what I was trying to say and instead found it to be a great space to slam the beauty of children and adults with differences.

So I read. 

Here are a few responses. Some are honestly too vulgar to post on my family blog but its important I share to raise awareness. Without open, frank discussions we will not teach tolerance to tomorrows adults.

Someone named "Sock" said "Puke. Don't drag down the academics and social environment with a misbehaved, mentally ill, or special needs kids. Regular kids are being robbed enough of their academics, they don't need more destractions in the classroom." (note "Sock" can't spell distractions)

Another reader named "Zoey" said "4 days ago
So, she's basically saying "My child is far more special than yours, because she's not a 'normal child' like your child, so she's gotta be in a far different class than you. Haha!". Or am I wrong here? Because I always fault the parents, when it comes to them having children with disabilities that cannot function in life properly, because of their stupid views in life for their child or children." (note "Zoey"begins a sentence with the word because)

Finally so you see that its not just a few comments but far surpassing 100, "Nosferatu" lets us know his or her opinion with clear and concise wording "3 days ago
Please keep the ‘tards away from normal kids!

I sit here wondering honestly where their parents went wrong? Perhaps they never experienced failure, struggle or defeat. I am certain my mom is reading this with tears streaming down her face (stop MOM) because I finally have a road to walk, its windy, bumpy and full of turns I never expected but its the road I am walking to make tomorrow easier for parents like myself.

So let me tell you a little about my "tard". She just completed her first 100 sight words from Kindergarten. She tested out yesterday. She's already mastered her numbers 1-40 and is far more capable than most of my other kids were at her age academically. In fact, my son, whose recently been tested for G & T couldn't write going into January of his Kindergarten year and probably had four words under his belt. Children are children. A person with a disability is a person first. My mother taught me to treat others as they wish to be treated and I pray that Zoey, Nosferatu, Sock and all their naysaying buddies are not treated the way they chose to treat my daughter behind a computer screen because no one, typical or atypical deserves that.

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